{ Self } care or bust

True or false: Self-care is self-indulgent. Self-absorbed. Not a real thing.

Anyone who has ever read this blog or any of the hip and happening health/lifestyle/beauty newsletters out there knows that these statements are ridiculously false. Yet, for some unfathomable reason, women feel uncomfortable with the notion.

Yes, we schedule our hair or nail appointments without a second thought, but a regular self-care practice that honors our bodies and or emotional needs seems beyond us.

It’s as though we don’t feel entitled or deserving. And besides everyone else comes first.

Sound like someone you know?

Try thinking about it this way: Self-care is self-preservation. You can’t take care of others unless you take care of yourself first.

It’s not self-absorbed to get in touch with your own needs and feelings. It’s how you re-engage with who you really are and what you want. Right now and in the future. When you identify what’s important to you, you can live and embody your values in an authentic way.

It’s not self-indulgent to show yourself some love. It helps you become a better advocate for your dreams and desires. When you know your worth, you don’t allow others to dismiss or marginalize you. You find your voice and you aren’t afraid to use it.

We all need daily self-care whether it’s a nap or a workout, a makeover or a moment of mindfulness. In the next few days, what can you do to take better care of your sweet and deserving { self }?


Good for what ails you

"I hab a code." Actually, I have the flu, with an array of symptoms so vast and intense I could star in my very own Tamiflu spot. And because I rarely get sick, I take it as a personal affront so I fight it. For every nap I take, I think what else could I be doing with this time? (P.S. It’s a weekend.) For every appointment I cancel, I feel as if I’m letting myself or others down. I refuse to “give in” and take a break.

When I was a little girl, I didn’t do this. Yes, I worried about missing school but that paled when compared to my few days at home. I got homemade chicken soup and applesauce from my grandmother and a facial and manicure from my mother. Hours and hours with my dog in my bed, reading or watching daytime TV. It was heaven.

As adults, our lives don’t permit such self-indulgences. (And for some, the notion of sick days is, sadly, inconceivable.) But there’s no reason we can’t do better about getting better. It’s really OK to take a moment and recharge. To support your immune system with healthy comfort foods. To give your monkey-mind a rest.

So next time the flu, a cold or exhaustion knocks you out, do the smart thing and treat yourself with kindness. Take naps and distract yourself with some mindless entertainment. It’s just what the doctor—and One Girl Wellness—ordered.

And now, if you’ll excuse me, I’m taking my dog and going back to bed.

10 ways to work working out into your life (and like it)

For many of us, eating right and getting fit is a mantra that sounds better in theory than in practice. But you can get fit again--even if time or motivation seem like insurmountable barriers. Here's how:

1. Meet your body where it is. You can't jump from couch to champion overnight. Commit to making steady progress and challenging yourself as you go.

2. Put your doctor and a trainer on your team. Many MDs are writing "exercise scripts" for their patients and prescribing cardio, flexibility and strength training as part of the treatment plans. Make sure you're given the all clear by your physician, then work with a trainer to develop a routine that helps you meet your goals.

3. Watch the clock. Want to get fit? You need to set aside a minimum of 150 minutes of moderate-intense activity/week. Want to lose weight? You'll need to commit to 180 minutes of intense exercise. If time is tight, break it up into 10-minute increments (or less) to squeeze in 2 minutes of barre, 5 minutes of running, stretching or aerobics you can do at your desk. Check the apple or android app stores for workouts you can do anytime, anywhere.

4. Open your mouth and say "om." No, meditation won't make you fit although it can power down on inflammation and stress. But yoga and Pilates, with their emphasis on breathing, mindfulness and body awareness, can bring more flexibility and serenity to your life.

5. Try something new. Sad but true, muscles get complacent. Get out of your physical and mental comfort zones with hard-core programs like CrossFit, Solidcore or HIIT. Even if you can't tell your left foot from your right, the exhilaration of surviving these workouts will carry you through the day (and burn more calories too).

6. Stay focused. Don't compare yourself to others or feel intimidated by more experienced exercisers. Get up to the front of the class, concentrate on your own work and don't give up.

7. Adjust your attitude. Think of your workout as a pleasure, not an obligation. When you find an activity you enjoy, you're more likely to do it on a regular basis and make it an organic part of your life.

8. Put it on your calendar. If you consciously and consistently set aside time to exercise, you will do it. (And like it!)

9. Make Fitbit your friend. Track your steps, your food, your sleep. Wearable tech is the newest and most fun way to monitor your health and build on your success.

10. Treat your { self } right. Exercise is a natural mood-enhancer, immunity-protector and health-booster. It's one of the best outlets for self-care and self-cure. So strap on those sneakers and go!